Right now I'm knee deep in addressing and finishing our STDs which I can't wait to reveal! First, though, I want to talk a bit about something I think many of us detail oriented brides forget: life. It happens regardless of how engorged we all get during wedding planning.
A few days ago, my great uncle passed away. He was a wonderful man who accomplished some great things in his life as a doctor, husband, and father. The death was fairly sudden, and it broke me out of my "must finish STDs" wedding planning sunshine and rainbows trance.
I'm not that great at conveying my feelings, but I'll try to. My uncle was a really great guy. He also loved my great aunt so much. They fit very well together. It wasn't a mushy, vomit inducing love. It was more of a mutual respect and fondness for one another. They were just happy to be together. Their relationship reminded me of my own with Mr. Biscuit. I know that I should be happy that he was able to live over 80 wonderful years, but it still really sucks to lose someone.
Now, I feel kind of selfish. Here I am, spending hours designing things and using a glue stick, while a close family member of mine is gone. This doesn't seem like a time to celebrate love, it seems like a time to mourn. I also don't know when this mourning period would appropriately be over. I know it would be gauche to send a STD to the family right now, but when is it time to stop mourning and begin to celebrate again?
Anyone have a death in the family while wedding planning? When did you decide it was time to stop mourning?
I'm so sorry to hear about your great uncle. If you are concerned about sending your save the dates out too soon then talk with your parents to get their pulse on the situation.
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So sorry to hear about your great uncle. It's always difficult to decide when to stop mourning and when to move on, but I'm sure your family would welcome a happier thing - like your wedding - to focus on. And when talking to family, maybe you could start a discussion on how to celebrate him as part of your special day.
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Thanks for your comments everyone! We've decided to wait a few months to send anything to that side of the family. They already know to Save the Date by word of mouth anyway!
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